Save The Pretty, Save the Handsome!
Everyone has something special and important to offer in various aspects of life. When it comes to being single and looking to find a relationship it’s important and valuable to truly know what you have to offer and how you will let yourself appreciate others.
Often people ask what I mean when I use my coined phrase of “Don’t waste the Pretty – Don’t waste the Handsome” and I am looking forward to expanding on this way of thinking to move people the fastest direction toward finding the best loving relationship ever. In all my matchmaking advice I honestly believe this to be at the top of the list of priorities in engaging yourself in the process.
To start off here are some questions to ask yourself:
- Do you feel your value is greater when given from an honest part of your heart?
- Do you treasure being intimate on an emotional level with people you have chosen to connect with?
- Do you ever look in the mirror and wonder where the years have gone?
- Can you think of days, weeks, months and possibly even years you gave to a lost love or a broken heart?
- Do you look back on past relationships and remember times when you found negative thoughts, words or feelings being expressed to the other person that later didn’t make you feel very good about yourself?
- Have you ever put a great deal of time and energy into a one sided relationship hoping the love you had was enough for the both of you?
There are many times in our lives that we can’t see past a current situation and at those moments the intense feelings can consume the process of fully living. This is a reality many people can relate to at some stage of loving another person. The important next step is to recognize when it’s time to move past a feeling, a thought or a relationship so you don’t give up what is special about your unique self to someone that will never value all you have to offer.
Many people don’t realize how much they “gift” of their heart to someone that will not treasure it the way it deserves to be. As a professional matchmaker I like to supportively guide my clients to really be honest with their self about what is stopping them from finding the love they want and feel they deserve. Spending months pining over an old love that is never going to come back only steals years of your natural beauty by showing the result of frown lines and sadness on your face, not to mention the growing distance you will feel as you have a hard time remembering what it felt to be in love. Talking to a partner in a negative emotion doesn’t let your pretty shine because the person hearing your words only sees the hurt and pain you want to express. At the same time people waste their pretty and their handsome by over sharing. I hear from singles professing the quantity of dates they have been on to prove there is no one out there for them. But really what they have actually done is shared a little piece of their soul with each person and that dilutes the quality they have to offer when the right person comes along. Saving a little bit of what makes you special will be of great value to the person that becomes your life partner. Knowing that not everyone in town knows your business keeps a feeling that something about you is still sacred and special only to your partner.
It’s important to give yourself numerous chances to meet someone out in the dating world. Just take pause on how much you share about your private life. Everyone doesn’t need to know all about your kids, your community, your work, your ex or your dreams. Make getting to know you a privilege and when you find that special someone you give them your all! Saving a little bit of your heart, your thoughts and your wishes keeps your pretty and your handsome!
Jacqueline Nichols www.intuitivematchmaking.com Professional Matchmaker Posted by Jacqueline The Matchmaker at 2:06 PM 0 comments Email This BlogThis! Share to Twitter Share to Facebook Share to Google Buzz Labels: dating advice, handsome, matchmaker, matchmaking, pretty Monday, February 14, 2011
